Responsibility

Have you taken full responsibility for your life yet? There comes a time in everyone’s life when you start to get the impression that you don’t like what’s appearing in your life, and you get tired of always looking around to see who you can blame, who you can point to, to dump the responsibility. Well you see, it was this landlord who was really nasty…OR well it all comes down to my mother, if she hadn’t….. Yes that’s the easy way out, that way you no longer have to worry about it, because you know who to blame. End of story. But what if your whole life was your responsibility? Eh? Wouldn’t that change things a little?

Pretend you’re the CEO of your own company, and when anything goes wrong- well, the buck stops here. No matter what appears in your life take responsibility for it. The old lady that you pass on the street muttering to herself about the accursed government, could be a message to you to stop complaining, maybe. Events that hit you out of the blue, could be past life karma coming back to bite you.

I was raised Catholic, so the idea of past lives was not one I grew up with. But as I started reading more and delving into the spiritual realm, it started to draw my curiosity. In one psychic reading in my early 20’s I was told about several lives – all goody- 2- shoes lives, rather boring really. Later my dream teacher told us that one shouldn’t go searching for past lives just out of curiosity, but as the information becomes relevant to our lives, we may find out more about it.

In her book Past Life Dreamwork, Sabine Lucas recounts one of her past lives as a male poet during the French Revolution. Highly regarded, leading an honorable life, he nonetheless ended shamefully in a public hanging. This appeared to make no sense, till Lucas investigated further, finding that in another previous life, she’d been an highly placed Bishop of the church, who’d put many many people to death. Then it all made sense.

So don’t be a whiner or a blamer – we’ve got enough of those in the world. It’s only when you really take full responsibility for what appears in your life that you can really start to get that strong gut feeling that YES, I really can run my life, YES I have the power to change my future. And no matter what ends up in your lap – well, do whatever you can about it, of course. But if you can’t – well, it is as it is. Just accept what it is, and move forward making the best decisions you can – your move. You know, there are so many things in this life that we take for granted, are not as intractable as you might think. -take death, for example – but that’s for next week.

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TRUST

After you’ve gotten into relax habits in your life, your next job is to get rid of those things that disturb your peace – worries, fears, confusions, by developing a deep trust. A trust that covers you completely. Often the safety in our life is limited to the here and now, the mundane, the expected. What I’m talking about here is the much larger picture of your existence, your whole life picture. Imagine a life without worry or fear. Imagine being completely confident that really, everything WILL turn out for the best.

I wasn’t able to do that for a long time. Unable to trust, really trust that my best efforts really were enough, that having pointed my bus in the direction I wished to go and made efforts in that direction, and asked for help, and let go – that everything was in the works. I still needed to trust that it’s accomplishment was so. Needed to believe it was really a fact. In the Christian Spiritualist Church I go to I also got a message to that effect: that what my guides were working on with me was to Trust more.

Letting go is also a big part of the package too. Once you’ve done what you can, then you need to let go completely, knowing it’s done.If however you’re so possessive of the problem that you return to it every few minutes to worry it over and over again, what happens is that the powers that be step back , “You got this covered? Well, ok, you go ahead! “ And you then don’t get the help that would have been yours. You can return to it the next morning, or the next week, but don’t be clinging to it all day long.Conceive it, picture it with emotion, picture your happy ending. Ask you higher powers to take care of it and then Let Go! TRUST the Universe will do the rest.

And do pray. Remember “Ask and ye shall receive?” Life is meant to be teamwork. You’re never alone. My grandson spent all of one school afternoon crying in the washroom, after he’s been bullied – because he thought he was all alone, that there was no one to depend on.

The head of the Kabbalah movement used to be a headstong teenager and once got in big trouble, and ended up being thrown in a pit overnight. With no help in sight, she heard a voice say: “Keep calm, they’ll find you in the morning.” And she did and they did.

A friend of mine as a teenager in a small village, was alone with her brothers, while her parents were absent one night. And they got invaded by a bunch of hoodlums. My friend got dragged off into the bushes to be raped. But without fear, she kept praying and praying for help – and sure enough before long an older man from the group interfered and told the other to let her go.

Trust. In my reading of the Hypnotherapy text books: Spirit Releasement therapy by Baldwin, and Regression Therapy Bk 1 and 2 by Lucas, there’s the story of one therapist who as he began his practice uncovered several of his past lives. Reviewing them all, he commented that his best life was amazingly one where he was black female slave who lived her life with deep contentment amidst her clan, trusting that things would always work out, and trusting she’d always be taken care of.

The Universe really is taking care of you. Do the best you can, and TRUST the universe will do the rest.

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Relax Already

Many of us were raised Catholic and understand sin, guilt, sacrifice, doing for others, and the idea that the devil finds work for idle hands. What we know less well, or not at all, is the sense of loving oneself, honoring oneself, being kind to oneself, and being able to enjoy full easy-going relaxation. The real relaxation that is not just a break from doing for others, or out of obligation. I’m talking about a life attitude, a way of living that honors who you are and what you really need from life, that recognizes that it’s ok to love yourself – actually it’s mandatory. And taking frequent breaks from “doing” by “being”.

A friend of mine died recently- in her 70’s, but she died before her time, from exhaustion. Just like Edgar Cayce, who never learned to leave obligation to others aside, and honor himself enough to stop and relax. He’d been told repeatedly by guidance to just put in a certain number of readings a day, and he went way over that. At first he collapsed into a coma for 2 weeks. That didn’t stop him. He continued at an exaggerated pace, and eventually died from it. My friend similarly lived with an attitude that there was always work that could be done, obligations to fill, always something else to do, a 10 min break was all she’d allow for herself, then back to the real stuff to do.

A dysfunctional way of living, really. That’s the pattern I too had adopted: years of pushng myself – always feeling behind the 8-ball, always thinking I could do just a little bit more, a little bit better. Always stressed, always tense. In the years that I was studying dreams with a dream group, our teacher came in one day and told us that she’d been told to tell those in the group: “You’re all far too stressed”. The group consisted of a diverse set of women, neither old or young, most with professional jobs – but all evidently with this one thing in common: too stressed. Not only stressed but far too stressed. So that spoke to our whole environment – this was not one or two particularly ambitious women – this was all of us. I only realize now what a strong statement that was, condemning our whole way of living. The way we evaluated what we did, and how little we valued ourselves and our personal time. So the recommendation is to relax more, to live a life of calm centeredness, in ourselves, watching life more, enjoying nature more, extending compassion to those who seem “off” without judgement or anger.

Long after I no longer considered myself a Catholic, I dreamt that I was serving up mummy food on a big platter in a church basement for a group of people. (mummy food – the dust discovered by those who first opened up the tombs in the pyramids – many of whom died within the following months from the poison – curse of the mummies, it was reported).

Evidently in those years I was still conveying those good Catholic, dysfunctional values – of which people can die: obligation, sacrifice, guilt, selflessness. A selflessness that doesn’t serve the real self, never mind the ego, it doesn’t serve the soul.

So let’s all go out and find a nice tree to talk to, or a pretty flower to admire, or a bird to watch, or some self-reflection or just daydreaming to indulge in. Let go the rat race, after all, as someone once said, so what does it really matter if you win the rat race – you’re still a rat.

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Breathe!

One of the healthiest things you can do for yourself is to breathe. Really! I’m talking about deep breathing, of course. Jim Fannin calls it “The 90- Second Rule” And he makes a good living going around the country preaching at CEO’s, and ball-club owners, and star players, teaching them how to breathe. And you thought it was easy! I guess the hard part is just to remember to do it. The idea is when you do 90 seconds of deep breathing, you’re focusing your thoughts, clearing your mind, calming your emotions, and in optimum condition to do your best.

There was a medical intuitive who was on the radio awhile back who would give advice on health matters, but inevitably whatever ailment he was dealing with, he would also add: and each morning and each evening stop and take 10 deep breaths – this will help you enormously. Whether a backache or a broken foot, the deep breathing had a big role to play in recovery. Which makes sense because one of the prime indicators of health is how much oxygen you’ve got in your blood. If those numbers are too low they send you to the hospital and hook you up to an oxygen tank. Right?

So what’s happening? They say it takes about 90 seconds for your body to calm down after an emotional outburst. You can accelerate recovery by taking several deep breaths. For those who need to be extra focused, as in before a big presentation, or before that big pitch in a ball-game, it centres you, brings you in more focus, also helps you to become more relaxed. Energetically you are raising your personal vibration to a higher frequency, a place where you have more personal power, greater inner strength. Also your ability to heal yourself is increased. They say disease only exists on the lower levels- once you raise your vibration you increase your ability to do healing. The book The Quantum Touch refers to a specific method of breathing that healers can use to entrain the person being worked on to a higher level, where healing is more likely.

Native Shaman Arrole Lawrence, from Northern Ontario also teaches that breathing right has a central role in our ability to manifest, to heal, to redirect reality. An amazing teaching. (He’ll be giving courses in the fall).

So everyone, altogether now: take a deep breath through the nose, deep as you can. Hold it a bit, then explode it out through the mouth!

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Whatever you hate

Whatever you hate comes back to bite you. I hated crocs when they came out. Couldn’t stand them. What a crock! Plastic shoes of all things! I’d never wear those. Never, never, never!

Well, the universe had other ideas, probably because of my vehemence, and adamant stand on the matter; I was about to get an odd kind of lesson. Shortly after crocs started to come into fashion I was walking around Ottawa in the vicinity of my teachers residence and the sandals I was wearing gave out – the sole completely came off and I ended up walking bare foot on the street! Ouch! What to do? I looked around and I happened to be in front of a hardware store. I figured why not ask them – maybe there was a slight chance they would carry something that would pass for footwear. Nothing to lose! In I went and asked what actually seemed like a stupid question – do you have anything I could wear on my feet? Well you guessed it! They had crocs for me! Of course! Talk about humble pie! So buy them I did and actually grew to be quite fond of them. After all, they’d saved my hide, didn’t they? I ended up wearing them as garden shoes, and still have them to this day. OK so they’re not the prettiest things on the planet but they’re OK.

Whatever you hate really does come back to bite you. Louise Haye says that the only way to get rid of someone you hate is to love them – people mind you, not shoes. There was a day care worker at the school where my son went who was wonderful with the parents (she was acting on the side) but awful with the kids. Bright spark that I am, I told on her to the head person. “Idiot” my husband said, “she’ll only take it out on our kid”. Oh! I hadn’t thought that far. Hm! What to do? So after awhile I discovered an exercise that I’ve used occasionally and recommended to others that Louise Haye offers: Before you go to bed picture the person you’re having a problem with as on a stage, maybe sitting, smiling broadly. And small children are bringing them flowers, a children’s choir is singing in their honor, maybe someone’s reciting a poem. And that’s it! Nothing mushy or lovey – just wishing them well!

And it worked, I may have done it for a week – not even that consistently, but within a short time- maybe a month she was gone! She’d taken a job on the other side of town, taken her own son out of that school, and I never saw her again! Wow!

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Manifesting – focus

Edgar Cayce wrote:” What one thinks about continually, they become; what one cherishes in their heart and mind they make a part of the pulsation of their heart…” (reading 3744-5)

Certainly something for all of us to remember. It behooves us all to first of all, be aware what it is that’s being served up today in that brain of yours. Observe what’s on tap today. Start to monitor who’s home – because it’s very important. After all you can only control what you can see.

It’s not uncommon for people to just not be aware of how negative their thinking really is, how often they’re awash in worry or negative thoughts. Then once you’re aware of it the first big switch needs to be the switch from negative thinking to positive thinking.

If you really manifest what you most think about – it’s very worrisome that so many teens get obsessed with violent video games and take visual violence for granted, and killing as normal. I understand that video games came about when the military discovered that a large percentage of the rifles preserved in war museums had, interestingly enough, never been fired. This meant that there was a natural reticence on the part of humans to kill their own kind. So video games were invented, and soldiers were trained on them, to literally get soldiers used to killing. And it’s been said that the war that followed, the Vietnamese War, was one of the bloodiest in history.

For a teenager preoccupied with video games, it’s just a game. But the consequences can be quite damaging. First of all most teachers will tell you yes, they can tell which kids play a lot of video games just from their behaviour in class. Their grades may or may not be impacted directly, but their behaviour certainly is. What you think about a lot, you pull into your life.

On the positive side of course, it works to your advantage, daily focus on positive goals is a definite part of a manifesting plan / protocol.

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More Manifesting

Write it down. Don’t people tell you that? Write it down! Write it down!

There’s some kind of magic that happens when you put pen to paper (not sure what the research is on finger to keyboard – if the results are the same or not.)

You’ve probably heard of the Harvard study where they split them into groups – One group wrote their goals on paper. One just did it in their heads. Followed them up and 20 years later lo and behold – the writers had achieved much higher positions and had accomplished a lot more than the non-writers.

You see there’s actually something physiological/ energetic that happens between pen and hand and brain, which is more than the sum of its parts. An interviewer on CBC the other day was commenting on just this point, saying that what he expected when he started writing journal, was just a one-on-one translation of his thinking onto paper. That’s not what happened. He found new ideas jumping into the mix that he hadn’t expected – even better ideas. Almost as if there was now a third party involved. Not sure that science has explained that one yet, but it is an observable fact that when you commit words to paper – what happens is more than the sum of its parts. As if that very act adds in an extra reflective dimension. (Ditto for telling an event/ idea to a friend : you’ll find new ideas popping up in the mix – or older related material presenting itself unexpectedly).

Everyone should keep a journal. That’s what I & my dream group were told. Not only write in it, but take it seriously enough to paginate it and index it – a page to record what page that dream was on, for special sayings, for special songs, etc… Then you can easily go back to that year and that incident, or that dream. Not keeping a journal is much like never checking yourself in the mirror – never looking at your reflection before you go out the door ( or waiting for your wife to yell at you: “You can’t go out like that!”)

Whatever goals you have – write them up in a special place – possibly the back of the journal – for each category of your life- personal relationships, character traits to modify, business goals, by when will you accomplish this, etc. And keep track. How am I really doing on this character trait of mine – that you said you wanted to get rid of a long time ago. Benjamin Franklin, who happily resides on the American Dollar bill – in his autobiography relates how he picked a virtue a month and worked on it diligently, recording successes and failures in his journal. And look how much he accomplished!

So make like Ben Franklin and WRITE IT DOWN!

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Manifesting

Ramtha says manifesting is simple, really. As if it really is a given that you get what you ask for. Picture what you want, embellish the picture and feel into it, and do that daily, regularly, unremitingly. And it has to appear in your reality.

But – many a slip between cup and lip ( Browning?).The one trick is that you have to believe that it actually is possible – it can’t be out of the range of possibility – it could be, but then you wouldn’t believe in it as much, right? You have to BELIEVE beyond the shadow of a doubt that it’s real. Was it Zig Ziglar who affirmed that he was a certain number of pounds when writing his book, which he wasn’t. But he projected that reailty as if it was real at that moment. It’s not a lie, it’s affirming this new thing is real, in another reality, a future reality. When he finished the book he set about making the new affirmation real – exercise program, running every day, eating differently, etc And soon enough, lo and behold, he was the weight he’d projected in his imagination.

Never underestimate the power of the imagination. “Whatever the mind of man can imagine, he can achieve”! ( could someone refresh me on the source here?)

DOUBT can easily get in the way. You can go along for months believing in what you want, picturing it, putting in your feelings, knowing for a fact it’s coming – then you fall into a funk, and start to doubt the whole thing. And the Universe goes: you didn’t really want that? Oops! Change course. Back to square 1. And you have to start all over again from the beginning. And when what you wanted doesn’t appear, you just go – ah well, I knew it wouldn’t happen anyway . What the heck! Without realizing that it’s you standing in the way of your own success.

FEELINGS. Watch the You Tube video by Neville Goddard The Feeling is the Secret”. Seems it’s not enough to just want something and visualize it as real and feel that it’s real, and juice up the picture with really wanting it and feeling how good it’ll feel to get it. No, you have to consistently watch what it is you’re feeling about everythng attached to that as well. If you indulge in negative feelings around the image you just made up or have a negative association with it, that you occasionally indulge in, then all you’re doing is pulling the negative towards you, which is not what you want at all.

Talking about it having to appear in your reality, I was once working with the material of Brian Tracy. A large workbook. One of the questions was to write down 100 things that you want. Not so easy. OK. So one item, that had never occurred to me before that I realized I wanted was someone to help me in the garden. I was having a difficult time doing all the chores, I’d just never thought to ask for help.

After I finished I went for a walk in the laneway behind my house and a young fellow with a planter pot in his hands comes out of one of the yards. We get to talking, introduce ourselves and what do you do? Well I help people with their gardens – of course we made a date to do just that. Amazing, no?

It occurred to me later that that idea of getting help with the garden, had just never crossed my mind before – did I ever tell you “Ask and ye shall receive!”

Another thing I put on my “wanna have” list was more vests. I liked them and was starting to wear more of them, but didn’t have many. These appeared 2 months later in our local street sale.

ASK AND YE SHALL RECEIVE

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Manifesting

So I’ve been working on the idea of manifesting lately, and I’d like to share a few thoughts with you on that. Different sources, some familiar, some not, with a few new insights. See what resonates with you.

The “Secret” told us to be positive, which is much harder than it sounds. In order to work on being more positive we need to first of all observe where we’re at. It’s only the rare person on this planet who will tell you right out – “yes, I’m too negative”. Most people go along day to day thinking they’re “being practical” worrying, figuring things out, elated occasionally, depressed occasionally, and more often than not, a little down, a little negative. Reactive. Like the picture of me in a dream here I was stuck on the chain of a garage door, about to get crushed , the higher I go, when I get to the hinge – someone else in control of the button – being pulled up or down depending on the circumstances, on the whim of someone else. Not in charge of my own life.

So if you want to get off that merry-go round, your first job is OBS – observe where you’re at. Literally start watching your thinking. Maybe in a journal, maybe in a little notebook you carry around. You could stop and check every few hours, for example, and ask yourself: what was I thinking just then? Until you know where you’re at, you can’t move that needle anywhere because you have no point of reference. Then when you’ve got a realistic grasp of just how negatitve you are ( and most people are), only then and only then, there’s a realistic chance of your getting out of that mindset and into something else you’d prefer.

My first major shift spiritually, was from negative to positive. It’s a whole different world you might say. I was with my dream group, and we were visiting a healer some years ago. Everyone had something different to ask. When it came to me, I don’t know what came over me – it’s not like I had given it a lot of thought, but I must have been feeling that I had too many negative factors in my thinking. What I asked was for a healing to become more positive. Surprisingly, he replied: Understood! And proceeeded to do a hands on healing. I must say I didn’t feel any different, but from that day on I was astonished to find myself addressing people differently: “darling’ and “sweetheart” which had never been part of my vocabulary before, started to drip into my conversations now & then – much to my own surprise. As if a shift had actually occurred and I really did feel more gentle, more positive to the rest of the human race.

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Goals

Goals

You’ve probably heard about it. The well-known Harvard study that followed  2 sets of graduates. One  reported  that they had goals but they were  more vague, and hadn’t been written.  Group 2 not only had goals but had also written them down.  i.e. had made them more real. He kicker was that , of course, the second group 10 years later had had considerably more success than the first.

It’s been found that  what you want wants you. You tend to pull to yourself that which you form a picture of and think about and emote over.
The same actually works for trying to remember something as well. The more senses you involve in the process of reviewing the information, the deeper  the item gets embedded in your unconscious, the higher your retention rate. If you can repeat whatever it is you want to remember, that’s great. If you repeat it in a loud voice, even better – another sense is involved. Then make a picture of it in your mind – a picture on the fridge is even better, another sense is involved.etc. etc….

Goals work. And they work for you. My first experience with goals  was a longer exercise out a Brian Tracy workbook. Very thorough, you were asked to list your “wanna-haves” in every category of your life. So OK. So for household chores, I decided I really didn’t want to have sole responsibility for my yard work, that I really would like some help with the garden. OK   So one item on a very long list.  Satisfied with myself I put the work aside and decided to take a walk in the laneway and go around the block for some air. Lo and behold, within minutes I was walking beside a young man carrying a potted plant. We got to talking. He was helping people in the neighbourhood with their gardens and voila! We made a deal for him to come and work  with me!  I was astounded, flabbergasted and befuddled. What had just happened? Well, that was no co-incidence: I intended something, and it started coming my way.

They say on the other side of life,  what you desire just appears, there’s no time lag. The same principle is at work here too – it’s only that there’s usually a time lag between the first thought and the manifestation, so we don’t always make the connection.  But connected they are.

Give it a try.

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