It’s the acceptability of low levels of violence that leads to bigger levels of violence. Like the mother who looks the other way when her teenager begins to dis her / disrespect her/ put her down. She probably feels it deeply but says nothing. Maybe it’ll
go away. Actually the chances are good that the behaviour will only worsen. Once the line has been crossed, and there’s no reaction, the unwritten law is that now the floodgates have been opened, anything goes.
I myself was in this situation and did nothing, hoping it would pass. It didn’t. The behaviour worsened to the point where it was obvious to everyone that I had no respect from neither my husband nor my son. It hurt, but I took no action. I was actually reprimanded for my inaction by my spiritual teacher at the time and it’s only now I realize why.
Similarly, accepting Rob Ford’s small indiscretions from the beginning by those around him: Big Mistake!
M.B. is a retired school teacher, who is working on a book on the effects of low level violence and the scaring of young children. Visit the website FrightFree.com